I need to find something to wear to my cousin's wedding next month, and I hate shopping for things for weddings. Gorman is typically my go-to because I can find something that fits me and looks good on my body, even if it's not really my style, but I've had a look at Gorman online and nothing really looks decent. I might pull out the dress I wore to a wedding last year and see if it'll work for this and if it still looks ok on me (no idea how much my body has changed between May last year and now, but I assume a lot). I just hate shopping in general because I have NO IDEA where to look for things that are in my size, cut for my body shape and that I actually like and that feel like "me". I feel like it's one of those, "Pick 2 out of the 3, you can't have them all" type things. I also never have any idea who to ask. I'm not quite plus size, or I'm juuuuuust technically plus size maybe, but all "plus size" type stores start at a size that's too big for me, but all straight sizing usually goes up to my size but is cut for people a lot smaller and less curvy than me. The annoying thing is that if I actually liked more feminine things I wouldn't have such a problem because certain dress and skirt styles look quite good on my body shape, but I feel like I'm cosplaying as someone else in them. I prefer a much more androgynous style, but I hate the way the things I actually WANT to wear look on my body. I hate it I hate it I hate it.
I've also had a bit of what I guess is body dysmorphia post-baby, which is weird I suppose, because I didn't have anything like that when I was pregnant and quite liked my pregnant body, but for some reason my gigantic breasts have been really, really getting to me. I actually love breastfeeding itself but I feel really bad and disconnected from my body when I'm not breastfeeding and I have to see or think about my breasts, like I just want to chop them off.
Also, and this is a self-imposed restriction, but I can't wear anything green to this wedding, which is one of my favourite colours and the colour of things I keep finding online that I don't hate. That's because this cousin is the last brother of my two other cousins that died recently, and his brother Sam who died in February had a green-themed funeral where we all wore green. Maybe it's silly or overthinking, but I just don't feel like wearing green to this wedding because of that - it'll be the last "event" everyone at this wedding was at together.
I know I just need to build a roster of go-to shops that I can start with whenever I'm shopping for anything, but I don't know where to start or where people shop. I have Gorman, which I don't even really like, and that's it. I just saw Ace and Jig advertised online and checked them out, and they have some dresses I might consider, but they're definitely out of my budget.